A heartbreak is something that I can’t avoid, but at least I can prevent it from happening too often. I am just sick of being stuck in the same loop of events that happens everytime.
I praise all the women that went through a lot but still found a way to recover. I admire these women not only because they found a way to recover, but because they also get stronger and stronger and nothing is able to bring them down.
All the bad experiences that brings you bad actually make you feel stronger than before, it actually helps you shape yourself and through them you will learn so many things about yourself and about everything that surrounds you.
But at some point, you will ask for the treatment you deserve, it is how things work you can’t keep fighting forever and looking the other way, there will be a time when you will ask to be placed where you deserve to be placed.
This why I made new standards for me to change my self , because I was sick and tired of feeling sad and being heartbroken.
NO MORE DATES FOR UNWORTHY MEN
Back in the days I used to trust everyone and do anything I can, and because of that I ended up on the losing side a lot.
I learned that trust is something to be earned, not everyone deserves it. I am not saying that all men are going to end up cheating or being bad like the ones I used to date, but I am saying that if he wants you he should be able to earn your trust with actions not words.
The guys should consider taking things slowly and give everything time to work out, and not consider being in a relationship after the first date.
NO MORE CHANCES TO ANY KIND OF MEN. I WILL CHOSE THE MEN I DATE CAREFULLY
I am fed up with men that are way over themselves, they are the most distinguished, after many experiences with them, I can now know them just by looking; I ended up giving them chances they did not deserve.
It is not always going to work even with the good guys, there is a possibility of getting hurt but at least it is over a decent person that more or less deserves it.
NO MORE REPLIES TO VERY LATE MESSAGES
I will stop replying to messages that came after a long time, because it is already too late. Because I am already damaged.
I will no longer reply to those late messages, when I get a late message at night it is more likely going to be a message with sexual hidden message, and I don’t want to be used just for sex.
I WILL NOT BE A TOY IN NO ONES HAND
I am done being a toy, I will not do as you please just because you asked for it, because I am done being taken as a fool and being played around with. I WILL NO LONGER BE EXPLOITED.
I want to be with someone that is always there for me, someone that really cares about me , misses me, texts and calls me. Some that does not feed me lies and does not exploit me, someone that cares for me the same way I care for him.
NO MORE LOVE CHASING
It is absurd to chase love, when you are with someone both ends should share feelings, both ends should love, care and be there for each other, love should not be one sided.
I am tired of being the only one showing love and care then getting nothing, I don’t want to feel alone with some I love.
I want to be with someone that will also gives me the love I deserve, someone that will support me and be there for me the same way I do for him.
I AM MY OWN PRIORITY
I had to not care for myself when I used to chase love. All my attention went to the other end and I did not care for myself. Everytime the other one wants something or I feel like he is missing something I work on getting things better and I did not set things right for myself.
After too many times doing the same mistake, I finally knew that I need things myself, things that I can provide to me. I forgot that I am important too, I do deserve some love, I need to love my self first.
I changed the flow of my life, I set new goals for me to achieve, new things to do, then I gained a new life, because of that I learned that when loving someone you should also love yourself.
I WILL SET NEW STANDARDS
I will no longer endure bad treatment, I will not stay with someone that does not value me and underestimates me.
I will no longer let someone play with my feelings, no more stupid guys that makes me suffer, if I am going to give away my love to someone, he should be willing to do the same with me.
This list of course will be updated, new experiences will make me realise new things that will push me to upgrade this list. But with this one my life seems to get back on the right track. I am really happy with how my life is going now.
I am not quitting love, but I am having more precautions to prevent further heartbreaks. I will always keep my guard up until the right person shows and I will open up to him with pleasure.